DIY if you're dumb enough to try. This year was no different — at least until my family sat down to binge-watch Making a Murderer. I went to pull out my box bullet — to finish the job my fingers started — when I made a very upsetting discovery: I had forgotten my vibrator. I was dildo-less. My orgasm, which moments ago seemed just within reach, suddenly became a ton of work. Once home, that experience still fresh in my mind, I vowed I would never let it happen again. If I ever found myself sans sex toy, I would be prepared. I had to know how to masturbate with common household objects.
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We're always hearing that we could be having better sex , a better orgasm, or a better relationship. But how often do we actually hear the nitty-gritty details of how we might actually achieve those things? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist , to help us out with the specifics. This week's topic: How to masturbate , because knowing several ways to get yourself off is something everybody should have in their skillset. Q: I've heard the advice that you need to learn how to get yourself off by masturbating. I've tried masturbating before, but I just can't figure out how to do it without a vibrator. Sure, some things feel good, but unless I use a toy, I can't reach orgasm with just my hand.
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Takeaway: Toys are great, but it's always a good idea to know how to get off without them. Because, you know, zombie apocalypse or something. The first orgasm I ever had was achieved with a cheap, stainless steel vibrator. I didn't really know my body that well. I had been experimenting more with penetration than clitoral stimulation. Once I learned how to cum well, I was 18, and I was insatiable. I couldn't get enough of it.
Or maybe your favorite one broke and you, similarly, are also broke right now. Or perhaps you are just new to masturbating overall and want to slowly explore what feels good to you. All are valid, excellent reasons to take matters into your own hands. Try something super simple by gently tapping your clit. It may not do it for you right away, but keep at it, teasing yourself with starts and stops. Then put a dollop of lube on your clit and slowly swirl a finger around it. If you have not had sex with water, get to it at once. Slide your ass waaay down so your V is angled conveniently under the stream. Just test the water temp first!